How to Stop Yelling at Your Children: Tips for Moms


Do you find yourself yelling at your children more than you'd like to admit? If so, you're not alone. Yelling is one of the most common ways that parents lose their cool with their kids. It's also one of the worst things that you can do for your relationship with them. In this blog post, I will discuss some tips for stopping yourself from yelling at your children. I'll also talk about how to handle the underlying causes in a healthy way so that it doesn't lead to yelling in the first place. Follow these tips and you'll be on your way to a calmer, more peaceful home life!

One of the main reasons why parents yelling at their children is because they're feeling stressed out. Lack of sleep, stress in other relationships, financial stress: it all adds up, especially for big family moms. If you can find a way to manage your stress in a healthy way, you'll be less likely to yell. I know this because one of my worst mom moments involved yelling. I have gone from being a yeller mom to being a calm mom almost all the time. I'm still human and do yell from time to time -- however when I do, I take constructive steps to address, reduce, and learn from yelling at my children.

ADDRESS

When you find yourself yelling at your kids, it's important to apologize. Let them know that you're sorry for losing your temper, it was wrong and you are a sinner in need of God's grace just like anyone else. This will help them to feel respected and valued, practice forgiveness, and it will also help to repair any damage that was done to your relationship.

REDUCE

As a Christian, I know that yelling is not an effective  or godly way to discipline my children. It violates the Golden Rule and makes them feel scared, disrespected, and unloved. Some good stress-relievers for parents are exercise, quiet time to pray & read your bible, and talking to a friend or therapist. If you don't know who to talk to (or your friends just pile on you for having so many kids in the first place) feel free to connect with others who get you in my Big Family Moms community here. I have tons of free resources & tips to help big family moms learn simple strategies that work to help you bring down your stress & in turn the yelling. Remember, you're not alone in this! With a little effort & support, you can learn how to keep your cool and have a more positive relationship with your kids.

LEARN

Rather than beat yourself up you can learn from your yelling (Remember: A righteous falls seven times and rises again (Proverbs 24:16). Take a moment to reflect and ask yourself with honesty & kindness the following questions.

-What caused you to yell?

-Was it something your child did or said?

-Or was it something that happened earlier in the day that you were holding onto?

-Were you feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or tired?

By taking a step back and trying to understand what led to the yelling, you can begin to change the way you react to stressors in your life. If you're always yelling because you're exhausted, see if there's a way to get more sleep. If you find yourself yelling when you're angry, try to take some deep breaths and count to ten before responding. I demonstrate exactly how I do this even when I'm holding a baby or nursing, in a quick video here. By understanding your yelling triggers, you can start to make changes that will lead to less stress and yelling for everyone.

So to wrap up, yelling at your children is never a good idea. It's important to manage your stress in a healthy way so that you don't take it out on your kids. If you do find yourself yelling, make sure to apologize and take steps to reduce the yelling in the future. With a little effort & support, you can have a calmer home life and a more positive relationship with your kids!

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If this blog blessed you feel free to join my Big Family Moms community where I have lots more resources and encouragement for moms like you overcoming struggles and growing in grace. Here’s the link if you like.

 

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